Lifestyle Etiquette

The host couples at any event should take time to orient you to the event and even introduce you to some of the members if you are new and would like to meet a few people upon your arrival. Feel free to approach your hosts with any needs, questions, or concerns you have.

Next, be open and be yourselves. Do not hesitate to introduce yourselves to others - making friends is the key to positive social experiences.

 Make sure that you and your partner discuss in advance your particular method of involvement with others and your boundaries as a couple. If you meet new friends during events or elsewhere, make sure you communicate your methods, boundaries, and any restrictions to them before you engage in an encounter.

The most important no-no to avoid is pushiness. Respect and consideration for the feelings and boundaries of others is paramount. Also, never touch others without asking. Do not assume that just because some may be involved that this means they are "fair game" for anyone to join in. This is absolutely not the case - wait to be invited or ask. Remember that free choice is every individuals right in this lifestyle and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Remember that being in this lifestyle does not mean that participants will engage in relationships with anyone and everyone. Some are more open and some are looking for a group of a very select few to become involved with. Every lifestyle participant must learn how to graciously accept a "no thank-you". There may be many reasons for personal tastes and interests, so learn to depersonalize the "no's" and walk away knowing the individuals that declined are looking for something else. In the same vein, don't be afraid to say "no thank-you" politely to unwanted invitations that you may get. Remember also that at our club or any other, participants are expected to conduct themselves with dignity. Group events are not the place to openly settle disputes or conflicts with your partner or anyone else for that matter. Creating a scene in public is never acceptable.

No drugs allowed on our property!!!!