Whether you are relatively new to the swinging scene

Whether you are relatively new to the swinging scene, or experienced swingers, it's always nice to be able to refer to some general tips on how to get the best out of swinging. So, we've come up with some tips to help everything go smoothly for you a....

FIRST MEETING

We suggest having at least made phone contact with the people you want to meet (speaking to all parties concerned), as this will drastically reduce the chance of a no meet up from a timewaster pretending to be someone they are not. Unless you are seeking a one night stand you should make sure the people you are meeting know that there are NO GUARANTEES, and that sexual contact will only happen if you are happy with the situation. Sometimes it is best to meet for drinks only the first time, and then arrange another date if all agree - after all, how many of you get a shag on the first date when you meet someone in a more usual relationship?! Always meet where there are other people, but for discretion purposes do not meet too near your own or your new friend's home.

PRIVATE PARTIES...BEWARE!!!

In my seven years of experience running Pharaohs, I have learned a lot about people’s horror stories at private parties.

I don't want to generalize

Couples will come back to us after they have had bad experiences and share how they got involved in things they never thought possible because of the pressure and the feel good drugs.

Getting involved with drugs are easy at these private parties. You will take the feel good drug “E” once and you will never have the same feeling again. Then what next?.

Why should you take anything to feel good if life offers you so much?

Rather say NO you never know if you are addictive!

Newby’s are easy targets you can enjoy without and no one gets hurt.

You get to know too much about each others business…..to personal.

If the hosts don't care what the neighbors think or say, why would they care about you?

MEETING AT A CLUB

Meeting someone at a Club is maybe the safest way. If you do not like what you see or you do not connect…it is easy to just say “NICE MEETING YOU” and walk away. No offence!! No really means NO! There are rules you have to abide by and it makes it easy for everyone. Never get to involved because nothing is forever! Just live your fantasy and go home and enjoy each others company. Never forget why you decided to go in the first place. Some fantasies are better left alone on the pillow.

Yes, we know some people do take some form of drug before they enter the club and it is difficult to know it all. However, WE DO NOT ALLOW ILLEGAL SUBSTANCES IN OUR CLUB!

Club owners have a heavy task to keep the clubs legal and clean.

How you live your life outside the Club is your business.

Respect is the key to swinging.

BE HONEST!

One of the most annoying things we have all come across is dishonesty. If you meet someone new and find you do not like him or her, TELL THEM; do not say you will arrange to meet again if you do not want to. A simple sentence like “its been lovely meeting you, but I'm sorry, you are not my type”. This saves a lot of time and you would be surprised at how well people will take it.

STAY ALERT!

If you need a bit of Dutch courage then that’s ok, but beware of going over the top. Nobody wants to swing with people who can't stand up, and you fellas know the consequences of too much alcohol.

SET GROUND RULES!

When all have agreed to have a swinging session it is important to sit down beforehand and explain the limits. At the very least, everyone should agree that if one person feels uncomfortable at any time during the session, they should be able to stop the action without any bad feeling in the group.

PRIVACY

Respect peoples privacy. What goes on in the company of your swinging friends is not the business of anybody else. If you really want to share your experience with others you should omit, or change, names and dates. Think about it, would you like others to tell their friends about you?

HAVE FUN!

Swinging is fun, giving a lot of people the time of their life. However, if anyone is not having fun, for whatever reason, then STOP! Never allow your partner or anyone else to pressure you into doing anything you are not comfortable with.